Taking Babysitter on Weekends, Yes or No?

5 Comments 24 February 2012 / by

a family and a baby sitter, a common sight in any shopping malls in Jakarta.

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every time i go visit any shopping malls in Jakarta (sometimes even in Singapore), i would see some small families accompanied with their baby sitters. sometimes the family has a baby sitter for each kid. that means that if the family has two kids, they would take two baby sitters with them when they go shopping or ‘window-shopping’.ย the baby sitters would carry the baby, hold the kids, play with the kids, attend the kids, and so and so.

understand that taking a baby to mall is quite troublesome. you need to bring lotsa stuffs in your baby bags. you need to carry the baby if the baby does not want to be put in the stroller. plus, you need to carry the shopping bags too. too much to handle at once. and when the baby needs to be cleaned after #1 and #2, someone has to do that.

but hey, that’s your baby. your own child. the baby has spent the whole week with the baby sitter when we are at our office working. by the time we came home, the baby has slept. so weekend maybe the only time when we can interact with the baby. why must have a middle-man (a.k.a baby sitter) to bridge our interaction with the baby?

i remember when naia was still a few months-old, i was very proud to carry her in her baby carrier. she liked to be carried forward-facing so she can see people surround her. when we went out during weekend, we seldom took our maid with us. when we took the maid, we normally needed the maid to carry the shopping bags, not the baby. and yes, we only have a maid not a baby sitter, because in merlion city we are only allowed to have one helper.

i have to say that spending weekend outside with a baby was not that easy. because we need to pay attention to the baby, to her needs, and need to adjust our pace too. especially now that we have two kids.ย  we still insist on going out just the four of us.ย  we just take turns to carry and attend each kid.ย  but it is not ‘mission impossible’ too. just enjoy it. embrace it. i keep saying to myself, when naia (and neishia) are bigger, it would be more difficult to ask her to join us during weekend. so, why not now?

PS: lately, i also see some families have taken extra miles, by bringing the baby sitters with them when they come to visit merlion city.

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  1. meiza says:

    Minggu lalu aku makan di resto, dan melihat pasangan suami istri.. The wife is not kinda working mom look.. membawa 2 toddler dan 3 BS. Kenapa bawa 3 ya?? Udah gitu BS nya makan makanan sisa anaknya pula. Aduh aduhh.. Mungkin makin byk dayang2 makin menunjukkan status sosial kali ya.. Padahal kalo diliat modern mother di US ngga ada yg pke nanny.

  2. Ninit says:

    Gw ga pake bs tapi art shin. Kl weekend kadang dibawa maksudnya sih sekalian jalan2 sama kita. Soalnya kl weekdays jarang jalan2.

    Kl makan, dia milih menu sendiri dan sering kita minta dia makan duluan sementara kita taking care of children. Jd tetep kita yg handle the boys.

    Iya sering liat nanny yg dibawa ke spore ๐Ÿ™‚

  3. otty says:

    Gue termasuk orang yang ga pernah ngajak ART pergi karena alasan yang mirip sama elo, tiap hari gue main sama anak cuma sebentar masa pas wknd gue juga nyerahin anak ke ART sih. Alasan kedua (yang ternyata mendukung alasan pertama) ternyata ART gue mabok darat parah! Naik mobil 15 menit aja udah mabok, gue ajak ke kantor (30 menit perjalanan on wknd) dia sakitnya dari Sabtu sampe Senin.

    Sayangnya, temen2 gue menganggap gue ga ngajak ART karena… gue pelit ga mau keluarin uang buat makan ART ๐Ÿ˜€ Ato disangka “jahat” ga ngebiarin ART refreshing. Halah.

  4. sLesTa says:

    iya kita juga jaraang bgt bawa ART (bukan BS) kalo weekend krn biasanya maid gue lbh seneng di rumah buat ngeberesin kerjaan rumah yg ga kekejar dikerjain pas weekdays. ato gak krn dia emg off krn dia sekolah.

    btw, ini yg nulis ario, bukan gue ๐Ÿ™‚

  5. neena says:

    Pemandangan yang jamak sekarang ini: baby sitter gendong/gandeng anaknya, sementara ibunya lebih memilih bawa diaper bag/printilan barang bawaan lainnya. Di kompleks saya, ada art/baby sitter yang membawa anak ke posyandu terdekat, bukannya sang ibu.


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